The retreat
started at 9am with few couples later joined the rest. Pastor MBIWAN gave the
opening prayer, later followed praise and worship lead by Sis Elizabeth
BELL.
GAME: by
Sis Rose MBIWAN
The aim is to
recognize each other and is been done by blinding the eyes of a person and
he/she guesses the person which will be placed in front of him/her after the
person produces the sound of an animal.
Exhortation
by Sis MBIWAN
Theme:
OBLIGATION TO BE HONEST IN MARRIAGE
Reading from
Acts 4:32-37, Acts 5:1-11
Taken from the
story of Ananias & Sapphira about how couples carrying on their life’s doing
wrong and none of the partner brings out the evil and this might let to their
down fall. And this brings out the lack of the Holy Spirit in their mist. This
is the case of the couple dishonesty, pretend and making people to know who they
are by praise of men and believed in materiel things.
Physically
people saw a good looking couple (even in the church that is being done among
couples) but while at home the atmosphere is different full of anger,
selfishness divided persons with each ones aim to gain from the other and
judging the level of contribution of the other.
At times it
happens in couples knowingly and some unknowingly. This dishonest situation is
becoming more and more seen in the church and brings about spirit fall in the
church.
- The way to solve this is couple being honest amongst them speaking of
clearly their intensions and actions. And also being honest with God because He
sees everything to avoid His divine judgment and contaminating other couples
seeing what they are doing.
In a couple when one person
knows how he/his is doing that is not good they should speak it out. If that is
hard you can talk to someone you trust to help speak to the other person. We
should not protect our spouses when wrong is being done. This to avoid trouble
in the couple and to let the blessings of God not to come the couple. Don’t hold
anything against your spouse, asks God to help you to be able to say it. Let’s
start by been honest with ourselves and also learn to forgive and support one
another.
BREAKFAST
Intervention: Past. Emmanuel
from Campus pour Christ.
Theme: UNITY IN THE COUPLE
WITH ACCEPTANCE BETWEEN COUPLES
After giving a brief summary
about him and how he has undergone certain situations in their marriage and how
God has help them to stay united, he went to the message.
Isaiah 43:7 God created us for
His glory, just like He created marriage for His glory. This to show to
non-Christian couples the glory of God and His greatness.
At times people go into
marriage just because they want to gain something, this brings a spirit of
selfishness which when this is not met brings conflict.
So if someone gets into
marriage for God and then for your partner for him/her to be happy, then we will
be very happy for the presence of God will be in our mist.
Gen 1:28 - The top priority in
every marriage is being together for the glory of God.
This is the unity God made
between couples because first for His glory and then dominate the world followed
by multiplying to fill the earth.
The fundamental problem in
marriage is that people pay less attention to why God created marriage and are
more concern on their happiness.
The question goes back to ask
ourselves why are we married as couples and what are the objectives of our
marriage?
In Gen1:28 God gives a mission
to this couple. There are two missions; either from God or our self mission
based on our interest (generally ends with trouble).
Gen 2:18 – God said it’s not
good for a man to be alone.
From this passage we see that
God created Adam but wasn’t still satisfied. That’s why He had to create Eve to
assist Adam. This principle imposes us not to be happy without the other
partner.
We always have the tendency to
rush to other things than taking care of our partner.
God create a Woman for a Man
for him to acknowledge his limits and also have the spirit of complimentary.
At times we don’t know we have a problem which hinders us to do
things alone, that’s why marriage was brought for each to help join efforts to
succeed easily.
That’s why as a couple we
must see our partner as a solution to our problems because the unity is for the
glory of God and He will be present in all circumstances. So as a married couple if one partner is in difficulty he/she must
turn to the other than outside.
Marry is unity, the man and
woman must move in one common accord in doing things. If one is touched that
should be the same for the other partner. You must identify yourself to your
partner if there is a problem then seek for a solution than rather blaming the
other for what is wrong.
If we put on God’s eye glasses
we see the bone of our bone, flesh of our flesh that completes our happiness.
But with our common eyes is seeing the source of our problems.
>The natural weakness of
each other (male and female) is first a fundamental difference that hinders
unity at times. Man and Woman each wants the other to think as the other. So
other weaknesses are like the other doesn’t like to work at home, or sleeps a
lot ,etc which are factors the hinders unity. For example praying
together as a couple, difficult may be because of times differences to wake up.
But equilibrium must be met. Other difference might be from our background where
we come from, may be the person not use to do things and has to do in
marriage.
Unity is perfect gift from God.
God has fulfilled our happiness but granting us our need and now we don’t have
to be sad. Together we have to sitting to get all what we need from the
other.
>If we don’t look our
partner as a solution as a satisfaction is rebelling against God, it’s
dishonouring the giver (God). If God has given you your partner, the treatment
you give to you partner everyday shows the level of honour you give to God.
See the other as a source of
problem can never make things move ahead.
Unity and perfect acceptance of
each other is the perfect principle for any married couple that comes from God.
Questions/
>When one partner dies what
happens to unity with the one who stays?
Before the other goes GOD has
already a solution for the person remaining and He has a solution to bring back
the unity by bringing another perfect partner.
Workshop/ between
couples
>Things that attracted a
couple to each other at the beginning and still keeps attracting now?
>Habits that I can’t take
from you today?
>What I think you can’t
accept from me?
>What we can do to accept
each other according to the will of God?
PRAYERS
- Maman MBIWAN : thanking God for this retreat and what has been though
- For acceptance between couples
- For unity in couples
- For our partner ‘declare something good in his/her life
LUNCH
There was a great variety of
food and drinks were brought by each couple and we had a common meal. It was
wonderful…lol
NATIONAL PRAYER
DAY
Some series of prayer topics
with given lead by Sister Elizabeth ENOW to be prayed by the entire group mostly
concerning the well being of our families and for the nation as a
whole.
GAME: by Maman
MBIWAN; a group of people go round a table dancing
and at the stop of the music they should pair themselves depending on the number
the sound controller wants. Those who are not grouped in the right number are
eliminated. It goes on till one person wins.
Intervention: Past. MBANG
Christopher
Theme: SEXUALITY AND
SEXOLOGY IN CHRISTIAN COUPLES
Songs of Solomon
5:1
Man didn’t create sexuality but
it’s something from God. It is recommended also to commit our sexual activity to
God before the act. This a divine act that lets to the building of a person and
secures our partner.
For a good sexual relationship
in a couple there must be first a good climate of understanding and
understanding between the couple for a favourable environment.
Proverb 5:19
Trouble comes at times in
sexual relationship due to practical acts been impose by one partner. There must
be no imposition but a mutual understanding in the act to be done. At times
words do influence the level of sexuality in certain couples, some are shy on
the pronunciation of hot words but others it exciting – you need to know your
partner’s attitudes towards sure reactions.
Men with high
temperament are very expeditious in releasing, so for such men, they such spend
much time in romancing to bring the wife to an extend of high climax before
going into her to finish at the same time.
Hygiene is very important.
CLOSING
After the closing prayers, the retreat ended at 6pm with
everyone going happy.
The monthly meeting for May was been cancelled to meet again in June
2012.
Fidelis MBI ENOW
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